Progress With My Boy

My youngest son he has super struggles. He has pretty much no control of his emotions nor does he have an understanding of them. He can be hurt and sad but laughing uncontrollable. He has a very high pain tolerance. Not knowing when he has a ear infection or a cut until it’s pointed out by someone else. I had a really unhappy and unhealthy relationship for his entire life. He never really bonded with anyone but me and his siblings. He never trusted anyone but us. He had a few men try desperately to play the father role but to no avail. Paytyn tried public school and quickly it wasn’t the fit for him. I have home schooled since giving him even less outside interaction. Until meeting Marc and his family he hadn’t ever interacted well with others. He never much showed love for anyone outside of our house. Hugs were tough for his siblings to obtain in fact and just a special treat that seemed to be saved for Mom. Now I see him forming bonds and filling buckets like crazy with Marc and his entire family. I think he feels accepted with them. I feel far less alone in raising him. I don’t feel like all eyes are on me and I am this terrible mom when I go out and he has a melt down because I am not alone. I can see his progress as my confidence grows in taking him out and to Marc’s house to hang out. Marc’s house really teaches him to work on his struggles as well. He isn’t able to be as loud he needs to reign it in if he doesn’t want to scare the birds. He has to watch the jumping more as he has a fish tank in the living room. He has really gained a love for animals since meeting Marc. When Marc gave me my rat I hadn’t really processed what positive reaction Paytyn would have. With a no pet policy( a fee if we wanted to add to lease) a rat was something that wouldn’t require a fee or space. It worked out absolutely perfectly! The rat is spoiled rotten and Paytyn has learned to be gentle and kind. I feel we have grown leaps in the last 8 months. I have been exploring a curriculum for next year that would make me far more hands on and see what we can achieve together. Autism is a big hard world for my son. I am eager to help him tackle his dreams. I am more confident knowing I have support. I have seen so much growth in us both this past year our journey will be so bright.


31 comments on “Progress With My Boy

  1. Speaking Bipolar

    One of my closest friends has two Autistic children, so I’ve seen the unique challenges up close. I applaud you for working hard to continue to improve your and your son’s lives.

  2. jmanandmillerbug

    It sounds like you all found your way with each other and others! I hope that he continues to grow a little more each day!

  3. Alli Smith

    It’s so important to have support and I’m so glad you’ve found it. It’s also great that he’s forming bonds outside his immediate family.

  4. Valerie

    I have a 9 year old w very similar issues. My heart goes out to you. We are on new medication and it isn’t working. Homeschooled the 2nd half of last year. It’s a challenge.

  5. Tasheena Nicole Johnson

    I’m to happy to hear that you’ve found the support that was needed. I’m so happy for Paytyn, it really sounds that he’s found true happiness with the rat.

  6. Candy

    Wonderful to hear you have both grown and progressed over the last year. Continue on your wonderful journey together

  7. Katie Kinsley

    It’s great that he is growing so well and that you are learning along during the progress. It’s cute to know that he loves animals – a love so universal!

  8. wendybigalbal

    Animals are so therapeutic for so many people! I’m happy you guys are figuring it all out.

  9. simplysensationalfood

    You sound like you have a great understanding of your sons needs and are doing everything that you can to nurture him and for him to gain confidence. It’s goiod to know that he is improving .

  10. Amber

    I’m so glad you’ve found ways to help your son. I understand. My son has autism, so I was always looking for ways to help him and make life easier.

  11. kalliamanika

    It seems to me you and your son are in a good path in your life! I am very glad you have found a way to help your child and by him creating new bonds that means he is growing and moving forward.

  12. yumgoggle1

    Progress is a great thing. It’s good you have support and having pets can really make a difference.

  13. Vasundhra

    I am so happy that your son is making progress. Pets can have a huge effect on our lives and it is great that he has learned to be more gentle.

  14. Kristina

    It’s so good to read about the progress your son has made. It’s great that you’ve found a way you can help him, creating bonds and relationships is so important!

    K xx

  15. Terri Steffes

    I always have believed that when we have something of our own to love, that our brain feels safe and then will explore new avenues for healing. If it doesn’t feel safe, then safety is what is focuses on. By safe, meaning dealing with new environments, people, schedules, etc.

  16. Phoebe

    I am happy that you are embracing his autism so that you can help him better. I work for kids with different disabilities and delays and it’s really heartbreaking when parents are in denial because it also hinders them from doing what should be done.

  17. Kermilia

    How sweet! I’m so glad that you’ve found something that works for him! So encouraged by his progress and I can’t wait to continue to follow his journey!

  18. Autumn

    Thanks for sharing such a personal story of your son my son used to be similar in this way.


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